Good People Bad Marriages Revised

How to tell if you're in a bad marriage. What to expect from and how to deal with your spouse, lawyers, friends and family when divorce is your best option. How to plan and prepare for the divorce process and life on your own. How to find a good attorney. Recognize character and behavior patterns of abusers and their victims. Where to find confidential help. What really hurts kids and family before, during and after divorce. Why God created divorce. How to avoid dating choices that lead to bad relationships, relationship problems and bad marriages.

Original Hard Copy 1996 Version

ISBN: 0-9653075-2-2 135 pages
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Table of Contents

CLIMBING THE WALL - Why so many relationships and marriages are so bad. How bad they are to the people in them. Who thinks about divorce and how often.

COURTING UP A STORM - Early hazard signs on the road to a bad relationship. Cautionary dating tips for teens and adults.

SETTLING FOR AND SETTLING DOWN - How different the beginning of a bad marriage is compared to a good marriage.

RUNNING ON EMPTY - What love is. Why it's necessary. All the things people call love and why they can't be substituted for the real thing.

FRIG IT OR TRASH IT - Deciding to stay or go.

SOMEBODY'S GONNA GET HURT - Which hurts family and friends most, a bad marriage or a divorce. How to tell them. How to make it easier on everyone, especially the kids.

MY ATTORNEY, MY EX AND I - How to find an attorney and what they need from you. What to expect from the courts and your ex. How to minimize conflict.

DID WE LEARN ANYTHING - Second marriages and beyond. Giving and getting advice.
RIGHT IN THE SIGHT OF GOD - What God has to do with marriage and divorce. Where and where not to find real Godly guidance.



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"Good People Bad Marriages" is especially good for the divorced to read because it may explain some of the difficulty they experienced in marriage. An excellent book." Irene Varley , M.A., Former President, North American Conference of Separated and Divorced Catholics

...you did not offer the same platitudes that many divorce recovery books have offered... Thanks for writing your wonderful book." L.S. Orange, CA

"...such profound insight. You place things in order, and make decisions seem a lot more peaceful and resolved, whatever one decides."

"It is a pleasure that I happened upon this gift, your book." C. G. Tyler, Texas

"What a great book!" J.S. Walnut Creek, CA

"...relieved years of guilt." A.K. Charlotte, NC


"I go back to it often. It helps every time." T.R. Pine Bluff, AR



FAQ about "Good People Bad Marriages"


What is "Good People Bad Marriages" about? It's information to help people decide whether to stay in or get out of a bad relationship and feel okay either way. It shows what a bad relationship is, how anybody can get into one, what it takes and what it's really like to get out. It's also about helping people avoid bad relationships in the first place.

Why did you write it? I wanted to tell people what I wish someone had told me about relationships, marriage and divorce when I was a teenager. I wanted to spare people the years of pain, confusion and unnecessary guilt a bad marriage or even a bad relationship can cause.

Why revise it? Why not just republish the original? Things change. In 1996 there weren't many books saying it's okay to divorce in some cases and even fewer telling what it's really like. Now they're more common. With the help of feedback from readers I built on the original to make it more relevant and helpful. I needed to add more on prevention and abusive relationships.

Do you have any formal education in psychology or experience in marriage counseling? Not formal. "Good People Bad Marriages" isn't about how to save a troubled marriage or a person, or how to make either one good. It's simply realistic information and support to help people see how peace and freedom is possible, whether they're in a committed relationship or not, and to help them have enough confidence in their own judgement to choose what's best for them.

How long were you married? Thirty years. Same man.

Is the book based on your personal experience? Yes, some, but mostly the experiences of other people.

How did you get your information? Listening. Years of listening, sometimes to see if anyone else was in a situation like mine. When I decided to write a book, I observed more carefully. I asked more questions, researched and circulated a survey. Everybody knows somebody with relationship problems. Most people have had them or are having them. Some people are oblivious to problems until their marriage goes under. Surprising things happened in the marriages of some of the original survey respondents. The only requirement for the survey was that the respondent had been married at least ten years, even if they were currently divorced.

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