Good People Bad Marriages Revised 2008

By Marsha Lee Hudgens

From personal experiences of ordinary people.  Bad marriages compared to good ones.  Marriage and relationship problems.  Infidelity.  Jealousy.  Patterns and personalities of abusers and their victims.  Where to get help.  Avoiding dating mistakes that lead to bad relationships, relationship problems and marriage problems.  How to divorce, plans and pitfalls.  How to ignore biased advice and information so that the decisions you make are right for you.  Children and divorce.  Family divorce.  What really hurts kids and family before, during and after divorce. 
Avoiding relationship problem landmines from dating to beyond divorce.  Why God created divorce. 
Misguided opinions on Christian divorce from misguided church people and how to handle it. 
Usable, common sense answers, all in one place. 

A two hour read that could change your life.  
 

Good People Bad Marriages, Divor

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...an excellent book..."   Irene Varley , M.A., President,  
North American Conference of Separated and Divorced Catholics - 1998 
  
"...It took me three marriages and three divorces to learn what I just read..."  V.T.  Canton, Ohio 
 
Table of Contents  
 
CLIMBING THE WALL - Why so many relationships and marriages are so bad.  How bad they are to the people in them.  Who thinks about divorce and how often.

COURTING UP A STORM - Early hazard signs on the road to a bad relationship.  Smart dating logic for teens and adults.
 
SETTLING FOR AND SETTLING DOWN - How different the beginning of a bad marriage is compared to a good marriage.  
 
RUNNING ON EMPTY - What love is.  Why it's necessary.  All about the things people call love and why they can't be substituted for the real thing.

FRIG IT OR TRASH IT - Deciding to stay or go.    
 
SOMEBODY'S GONNA GET HURT - Which hurts family and friends most, a bad marriage or a divorce.  How to tell them.  How to make it easier on everyone, especially the kids.     
 
MY ATTORNEY, MY EX AND I - How to find an attorney and what they need from you. What to expect from the courts and your ex.  
 
  DID WE LEARN ANYTHING  - Second marriages and beyond.
  Giving and getting advice.     
 
RIGHT IN THE SIGHT OF GOD - What God has to do with it.  Where and where not to find real Godly guidance.






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"Good People Bad Marriages" is especially good for the divorced to read because it may explain some of the difficulty they experienced in marriage. "  Irene Varley  
   
"...you did not offer the same platitudes that many divorce recovery books have offered...  Thanks for writing your wonderful book."  L.S.  Orange, CA   
 
"...such profound insight. You place things in order, and make decisions seem a lot more peaceful and resolved, whatever one decides.
It is a pleasure that I happened upon this gift, your book.  Connie G.  Tyler, Texas  
 
"What a great book!"  J.S.  Walnut Creek, CA  
 
"...relieved years of guilt."  A.K. Charlotte, NC  
 
"... your book touched my life."  J.R. Louisville, KY  
 
"I go back to it often.  It helps every time."  T.R.  Pine Bluff, AR  
 

FAQ about "Good People Bad Marriages"  
 
What is "Good People Bad Marriages" about?  
 
It's information to help people decide whether to stay in or get out of a bad relationship and feel okay either way, by showing them what a bad relationship is, how anybody can get into one, what it takes and what it's really like to get out.  It's also about helping people avoid bad relationships in the first place.     
 
Why did you write it?  
 
I wanted to tell people what I wish someone had told me about relationships, marriage and divorce when I was a teenager.  It could have saved years of pain and confusion and unnecessary guilt for me.  Before I wrote the first edition, I thought if it helped just one person avoid the misery I experienced, it would be worth the trouble. It helped a great deal more than one.  I hope to reach even more with the ebook.
 
Why revise it?  Why not just republish the original?   
 
Things change in ten+ years.  I built on the original to make it more relevant and helpful today.  After the first one was in print, I saw that more emphasis needed to be on prevention, and that more people could have been helped with more information on abusive relationships. 
 
Do you have any formal education in psychology or experience in marriage counseling?  
 
Not formal.  "Good People Bad Marriages" isn't about how to save a troubled marriage or a person, or how to make either one good.  It's simply realistic information and support to help people see how peace and freedom is possible, whether they're in a committed relationship or not, and to help them have enough confidence to choose what's best for them.  

How long were you married?  
 
Thirty years.  Same man.    
 
Is the book based on your personal experience?  
 
Yes, some, but mostly the experiences of other people.

How did you get your information?   
 
Listening, observing, asking questions, research and a survey. Everybody knows somebody with relationship problems.  Most people have had them.  Interesting things happened to some of the original survey respondents.  The only requirement for the survey was that the respondent had been married at least ten years, even if they were currently divorced.  All the additional information generated by the first book is added to this one   
 

Email Marsha at marshahudgens@att.net  Thank you to those of you who have let me know how the book has helped you.  If you would like to submit a comment or article for publication on this site, please let me know.  Submissions may be edited for content, but never published without your final approval.  Thanks.